Character Lessons Taught Everyday By One Parent

I remember this one time where I asked a parent this question, "What is your mission as a parent?" I thought that the moment that a mother and father became parents they came up with an end goal for their children.. More often than not, most parents seem to just live day to day as it pertains to raising their children.

One family that I have spent a number of years working with do the exact opposite. In their daily routines, they not only communicate what the expectations of their children are, but model it in their daily interactions with their own family. They have more than six children and have modeled them in the old-fashioned way of child-rearing, "Responsibility, respect, and integrity is shared by all of you." I like how they raise their kids because it was how I was raised.

On the day of the Parent-Teacher Conference, the mother of these wonderful children came in to talk to the teachers of her children. I recall that she stated that two of the teachers had complimented the actions of two of her children but it was the heroic action of one of the children that really stood out to not just me, but the entire school.

During the time of the school announcements, there was one student in the third grade class that volunteered to lead the Pledge of Allegiance. The student that volunteered has Aspergers Syndrome and because of his disability, has problems communicating socially with his peers. The teacher had asked the other students in the class if any of them would volunteer to help the student with Aspergers Syndrome and nobody wanted to volunteer, except for the son of my client. He quickly shot up his hand and said, "I'll go up there with him!"

Both students marched up to the office and waited for the part of the announcements to lead the Pledge of Allegiance. When it was time for the student with Aspergers Syndrome to lead the pledge, he froze. It wasn't as if he didn't know the pledge.. he didn't know at that moment in time what he needed to do. The staff at the school repeated the cue for him to say the pledge. Still... no answer. He glanced over to my client's son and my client's son nodded his head. He walked over to him, held his hand, popped into the viewing screen of the camera where the entire school was watching and said...

"Good morning school! My name is Mike and this is my friend John. Today we are going to lead the Pledge of Allegiance..... I pledge allegiance to the flag...."

When my client was telling me this story, it was a pivotal time in my life when many of the casual conversations I hear from parents are the trivialities of school. Yes, I agree that education is vital to the upbringing of one's children, but equally as important as integrity, leadership, and courage. What this child did for me, his family, and his school is that it is so easy to mock someone because you get to hide, it is so much more meaningful to stand by someone and show your strength of character by challenging what may not be popular.

I am so proud to know this child - and hope that these actions of our little heroes are never overlooked.  

When Professionals Do Not Tell The Truth...

My mother always said that your name is important in who you are. I've always been very adept at understanding complex organizational systems and have been able to break down the interpersonal relationships that may be troubling for people my age to understand.

Very recently I have learned about the actions of certain individuals who have access to information and resources that have indelibly affected the educational outcomes of young children. It has angered and frustrated me beyond belief because as many people have respected them, they have been placed in a position of trust but have used this position to change and skew the dynamics of the systems that they are part of.

One such story was told to me very sadly by a young boy whom I have known for several months. He has been dreaming of attending a school that his father attended many years ago. Following in his father's footsteps, he had hoped to be wearing the uniform once graced by his dad years prior. Each year, he anticipated the moment that his presence would grace the halls of the school. Given the fact that the odds were for him, it was a "shoe-in", his family thought, as he had the same accolades and abilities that many of the students currently attending the school had. It was supposed to happen until..

Admissions Directors for the most part, have a difficult job in that they have to balance the needs of the school with the reputation that is to be upheld in the community. As it turns out, this particular Admissions Director has not told the entire truth to the young child. It sounded too good to be true that any family would be promised "a spot" but to outwardly admit students that were in the same grade and school as a student that you did not want attending your school is something that is worth coming clean on.

Study Skills - It's a Part of Life

We see the world in color, why not study using color? 

Funny Sight Words Conversation!

As I was working with a student on Sight Words, he said, "Hey, there's no I in "Why" and no air in "Where"! What's up with that?

Can Children Play and Learn At the Same Time?

I was with a little four year old yesterday introducing a lesson that involved roles and responsibilities. I try the best that I possibly can to not talk so much that the children rely too much on the words that I speak in order to learn the concepts that are being presented to him. So I do what I love to do best: I PLAY!

For some reason, he liked the activity so much that every time we needed to transition to other tasks, he would ask if we could revisit our original lesson. This happened again - and again - and again. So I made eye contact and asked him, "Does your school have toys like this in your classroom?" His response was, "No, not really.". I then asked - "Have you been on a field trip at your school?". That response was the same as the first, "No, other than petting an animal - I don't know what a field trip is.." That's when it all came together - this child is not playing enough in school.

According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, it is very important that children play at the very early states of life because it contributes to the "cognitive, physical, social, and emotional well-being of children and youth". Some individuals have even gone so far as to say that it is a fundamental right that all children have. If this is the case, then why are less and less children playing during these incremental periods of life?

Given the fact that the post-modern family is pressured to perform and engages in a very hurried lifestyle, the necessity of playing many not take precedence in the family schedule. The transition from playing that helps children learn social rules and mores to time spent on structured academics has taken its toll as children have grown less adept of handling behaviors that they are unfamiliar with. Play, for the sake of understanding as we know it, has gone away.

Going back to the little client in my story, it makes me sad that despite the thousands of dollars that his parents spend on his education, he is not playing as much as I think he should. It shows when he goes home and is unregulated because his mind and creativity was unable to be set free, and it makes me extremely upset. As an educator, there are always opportunities to restructure activities so that children are playing. From teaching them the parts of your body to solving the most simple of calculus problems - play should never go away. 

Are You Playing Homework Hostage Negotiator With Your Child?

It may be funny to read the title of this blog, but for many parents, this brings them to tears each and every night...

What starts out as an innocent question about the status of work that needs to be done after school ends up in a struggle of power, dominance, tactile defenses, and ultimately (if you do not lose) defeat of the young elementary/middle school/high school child that relents into the inevitable task that many of us know as "homework".

It's not a bad word, but has a negative association for most kids. Instead of addressing it by it's English name, they refer to it as "boring", or "do I have to do this" or "I hate school". I've come across more students with this dramatic disposition to these assignments and have seen a range of responses and emotional settings such as complete denial that there is homework to apathy. Whatever emotion the child feels - the response should always be the same.

Here are some tips on what to do if you are caught in the crossfire of playing "hostage negotiator" with your child:

1. DO NOT negotiate with your child!

Okay, maybe the CIA will not tell you this (yes, too many reruns of Bourne Identity in my brain) but you DO NOT NEGOTIATE with your child! There is a reason why your child will not do their homework - and before you engage in an offensive military strike that involves taking away all the privileges that they have not earned, it is important to find out what is the root of all (misguided) unhappiness towards homework..

2. EMPATHIZE With Your Child!

Remember when you were trying to pass that really boring literature class and procrastinated on studying for the final exam until you realized that it was tomorrow (okay, that must have been my little sister. I didn't do that..)? It's hard to think that your child is anything but an obedient compliant individual until you remember what it was like when you were growing up. Try to level with the child and relate to what they were experiencing.

Children look up to you and at times - think that you are either the most perfect human beings or are horrible parents. Tell them about what subjects you had a difficult time with and recall how it was hard for you to be self-motivated. They are not looking for someone to tell them what to do all the time, sometimes they are looking to just listen.

3. FIND OUT What It Is That They Really Need To Do

There is a misassumption that you have to complete everything that the teacher assigns to your child. When homework is assigned, many times it is to gain mastery of the concept that they are studying in school (I'm not an advocate of "busywork" - but "meaningful practice:). If it becomes an all out "War of the Words" in your house, find out what alternate assignments the teacher has allotted for students that may not have the chance to complete the homework.

I'm not advocating for you to ask for a free pass to not do work - but come to an agreement on what the learning and performance expectations are each and every day!

If you have any questions on this topic, or would like additional information about services provided by Learning Ridge, LLC - please contact Christine at 404-964-8533 or you can visit my website :)

From Normal to Medicated

When you think about a typical child, one thinks of someone who has a need to run around and tinker with toys to their hearts content. As a little girl, I remember constantly putting something in my hand and imagining the world around me through a visual medium. I wrote on anything my pens and markers could "scribble" on: paper, newspapers, magazines, shirts, and yes, even the kitchen table and the walls. It was hard for my mom to understand why I had a genetic predisposition to the world of print (it's partially my grandfather who influenced me. The man never went anywhere without writing things down as he was an attorney and diplomate) but I am glad that she never stopped me from doing what I was meant to do: express myself in the best way my brain knew how.

What grabs me at my heart is when I see children unable to be children in this day and age. I remember my childhood as if it were yesterday but when I see how some children are constantly drugged or tucked into some corner because they (or the adults around them) are unable to manage their behavior, it tugs at my heartstrings and makes me feel so helpless for the little one. There is so much that I feel we can do for children and to mistakenly label "boredom" with a diagnosis of ADD or ADHD is just uncalled for.

I recall this one time where I arrived (or was scheduled) at an unusually early time for one of my little clients. It was at 7:30am and the client had motioned to me that her son had not been medicated and as such, would not sit and pay attention. Rather than disagreeing with her, I continued working with her son and noticed after about 20 minutes, his thoughts and energy were retarded as a result of the medication. It was quite devastating for me - as the drugs started to kick in, I noticed his brain slip away and the look in his eyes resemble that of a zombie. It's one thing to be completely focused on something that you enjoy doing, it's another to be forced to pay attention against your will.

Other than an occasional dose of allergy medicine (that puts me to sleep after about 30 minutes), it's quite daunting to see how quickly the effects of medication has on students with attention problems. Perhaps students with ADHD can be managed a little differently or instead of using all that medicine, wouldn't it be more prudent to teach them life-skills or coping strategies?

I've never really been in favor of medication for those who have minor to moderate attention problems. Maybe we can advocate for teaching them how to manage their behaviors as a long term solution instead.

One of the Hardest Parts of Working with Students

It happens within a few moments - a parent calls me in despair. These parents have recognized something that needs attention with their child. They never spell out what the problems are, but between the lines I know that they are asking for my help.

Sometimes they find me through a web search, sometimes they find me through the business card left at a neighborhood coffee establishment - regardless of how they find me, I know what I have to do. As my father would always say, "You have that position and knowledge to help people. Now do what it is that you are meant to do.."

This is where I begin to look beyond the pages of a book. As we begin to unravel the idiosyncrasies and hidden talents of a child, I start the process of discovery (and self-discovery). Using all of the experiences and knowledge that I have accumulated throughout the years, I start to create a path for the student. Sometimes the path is one that is straight and narrow - other times it is rather broad and seemingly overcrowded. Regardless of what the path is, it is one that necessitates a great deal of time and effort.

In my private practice, I have spent many hours deliberating on what I should do first, last, and everything in between. What I do works because I see how happy I have made many children and many clients as I do what I do best - care for people. So when the journey needs to take a different direction - one that involves another individual, I take it very personally.

When I have a client that either needs to be cared for by one of my professionals, it is a difficult transitioning period for me. I always think to myself if that young boy or girl will be okay with the "change". As the first appointment ends and I say goodbye to the young client, I have to stop and remember to not be selfish and want all of the students to work with me. One time I had to let go of a client and for some strange reason - I walked back to the little one and gave them a hug (as if to dull the feeling of emptiness or sadness that I may not see them again.) It is true that when you make a mark on someone's life - it's one that stays there forever. My calling was not to invent a new computer - or work in a hospital from 9-5, or brag about what I did the week before, my calling was to change the way that an individual feels about themselves in a positive way - and have lasting results!

Grandma's (or Grandpa's) Role in Your Child's Future

To make a long story short, I made a deal with a five year old. It becomes harder and harder each year for me as the students I deal with are often working with a professional "Child Pleaser" (myself)  and for some reason, they call my bluff when I give them an offer that I always think - they will have to refuse.

This time, I was conned by a little girl who was given one simple task: to master one alphabet in one summer in exchange for one book. 

When I initially completed the baseline, she knew about 9 letters of the 26 and I thought that I had the upper hand. She would work on the alphabet in her spare time however, I factored in her  becoming distracted by television, play dates, tea parties and ballet and then I would walk off with the Princess Book collection that I had. (Yes, I believe that knowing how to read all the letters in the alphabet in exchange for another book that she can read. My prizes are very utilitarian.. Example, for my nieces 2nd birthday I bought her two coloring books in different languages. I was scolded by my brother for it - I explained that I was exercising my right to spread the gift of early multi-language development..) Back to my story,  I was wrong - so wrong because the little five year old client did the unthinkable..

Until these little 3 foot tall clients start making me sign contracts - it was a negotiation war. Each week I would work on reviewing various sounds and assigning new sounds to her. I would track progress and noticed that there was a very steep upward curve in her phonemic awareness. She would sit across me and revel in these tiny successes as we talked about lemonade, party dresses, and Princess trivia. Her numbers looked better and better each week: 18 letters to 12 letters to 9 letters to 3 letters and then... there were two.

"What does the letter "y" say?" I thought I had a slam dunk - she wouldn't get this, what is it to a party princess poser to wait another week for a book on Sleeping Beauty? "Ms. Christine, y says...." and then she said it. She knew the sound....

Not only the sound for "y" - but the sounds of all the letters of the alphabet. She tore my book up - grabbed all of my puzzle pieces and went to town with my letters, my books, and my toys. I never thought that any little child would be able to top my fierce will to fight to be right and win by any means possible. "Princess Power" mode kicked in - she annihilated me and the books that I was hiding from society for years and years (a 12 book volume based on Disney Princesses). She did all of this - with the help of her secret weapon.

It was Grandma!! A former school teacher, Grandma had moved into the house (temporarily) and spent the last few weeks helping little princess learn the alphabet. My little client never disclosed this quiet fact - but somehow it didn't matter. She had the confidence of an Olympic Athlete with the mental strength of a Mensa Institute member. "Grandma helps me with writing and reading..", she said in her very coy voice. "That's not cheating is it?"

Sweetheart - it's never cheating when Grandma or Grandpa help you - it's a little thing called LOVE!

What Are Some Common Signs of Dyslexia?

Let's face it - we all learn differently! I am part of  a large family and noticed early on that I was not (and never will be) an auditory learner. No matter how hard I tried, I could not memorize the words to my favorite songs like my little sister can. Lucky girl belted out tunes before she was two years old.

With this fact in mind, it is common knowledge that some of the best and brightest in the world are dyslexic. How do some people realize that they have this gift? Here are a few signs that suggest that one may have dyslexia:

• The individual has problems learning to speak
• Difficulty with organizing written and spoken language
• Challenged with learning letters and their sounds
• Problems with memorizing number facts
• Spelling Issues
• Reading Delays
• Issues with learning a foreign language
• Cannot correctly do math operations

For more information on dyslexia, go to:
http://www.interdys.org/SignsofDyslexiaCombined.htm

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How Can You Model Great Behavior To Your Child?

As the middle child, the best gift that my parents gave me was the gift of "maybe". When I would ask them about certain things that I wanted to have such as "Will I ever be a great speaker?" - my mom's response would be, "Maybe, if you work really hard at it." It was at that point at time that my mind was set on those "maybe's" turning into a "definitely".

Working with students now and days, I see that students may not have the same drive or initiative that their parents have. Perhaps it is just an observation that I am making - but I hope that somehow the lightbulb will go off and they will surpass the achievements that their parents and grandparents had accomplished before them.

Here is what I would recommend for any parent who wants their child to be High Performing:

1. Engage Actively

Yes, video games are great, but come with several consequences. When your child is doing something, engage in the activity with them and talk to them about it. It's important to talk to your kids about the music they like and then communicate about the music that you liked when you were their age. This will help them to understand you and not feel that they need to "ostracize" you when they are in their teens.

2. Experience - Experience - Experience

When you spend quality time together, whether it is going to the park or enjoying the 4th of July, focus on the experience of what you are in and not what you think is important. Playing frisbee is great when you are at the park but your child will love the fact that you were able to help them make new friends while you are there. It's all about finding those...

3. Teachable Moments

Model great behaviors and coping strategies with your child. Be (as my mom always said) a good citizen by saying hello and showing him what the steps are in making new friends. It's easier to be shown this - than told this!

My Thought For the Day..

When we love our work, when we believe in what we do, we should never be satisfied. There is always so far to go, and only by losing ourselves in the passion for our work, and the discipline that it demands, do we have the chance of approaching mastery.

Things that your child remembers..

Up until I was in my second year of college, I was blessed to have both of my wonderful parents. My (late) father was a very honorable man who never had an enemy. He had a large circle of friends from around the world who loved and adored him beyond our comprehension.  He made us believe that he would always be there no matter what happened and showed us the strength that it takes in order to not only have a happy life, but one that would make an impact on the world that you live in.

My wonderful mother is a healthy and very strong-willed woman who never takes no for an answer (I think I know where I inherited my stubbornness from). She always looked at the big picture and gave more of herself than anyone I ever knew and would be content with receiving nothing but a simple thank you for her efforts. She is courageous in her own respects and I admire her for raising the six of us.

When I think of my parents, rarely do I reflect upon things that they gave me. It's actually the most simplest of memories that I have of my loving mom and dad doing something that makes me the luckiest individual in the world. One strong memory of my late father was when the "old man" would initiate his work ritual. He took the late (very late) shift  so that he could be home to watch all of us. Before dad would leave for work, he would make his nightly rounds to make sure that all of children were all in their respective beds (including myself). The final thing that I remember my dad doing before I went to sleep was him turning my bedroom light off so that I can sleep peacefully at night. I took all of that for granted when we were growing up but I see the type of man my father was by making sure everyone was okay before he went off to work.

In thinking of my mom, I always remember the time when I was a little girl and she took me out to the city and we walked by foot to go sight seeing. She and I spent the entire day together and I recall looking at photographs of her and told her that I wanted my hair to be just like hers when we went somewhere. I love my mom but what I love the most about my mom is the fact that she always underlines her commitment to being the mom that she is. Whenever I hear a voicemail or talk to my mom, she always tells me, "No matter what, I am always proud of you and mommy loves you." I save all of the voicemails that my mom sends me to make sure that even during the worst of days, I can count on the person who believes in me the most.

There are times when you think that your child may want you to give them something. In the end, it's really the gift of yourself that they are looking for. I am not a person who believes that material things are what makes an individual happy, but having a loving and caring family will compensate for anything material that you may not have at this point in time.

The Example That You Set Is the Standard That They Live By...

When I observe parents, I typically look to see how they communicate with each other, how they deal with stress, and most importantly, how they deal with conflict. Since most of what children inherit from their parents is genetic, it should not surprise you that their behavior and mannerisms would be an extension of what you give to them as well.

Take for example my paternal grandfather. A man who was very humble yet educated beyond the realms of most standards. He did nothing but pursue a great education and raise his children with the same values. He put his family first, loved his wife, and upheld a code of conduct that was passed through generations after him. He was quick to uphold discipline but slow in criticizing and giving not only his children but his great grandchildren the advice they needed to be successful in life. He is one of my heroes and has taught generations after him the importance of "saving face", something that many individuals nowadays do not even have an inkling of knowing.

In my everyday life, I have seen many parents behave in the opposite respect. Sometimes their quick tempers flare up and effects their children - even when they are not aware that they are there. Their body language showing that they are upset or feeling let down also  has a negative effect on their child as they mimic the same behaviors. I remember one of the stories that I heard from a child that told me that his mom was mad at him. It broke my heart to think that anybody can be "mad" at a four year old who wants nothing more than to be loved and praised for being who he is. When he told me the story that "my mom always gives me a hug and a kiss goodnight and when she is upset, she doesn't" made me want to cry. It's hard enough making sense of the world around you outside of your home but the least that this parent could have done is have a conversation with the child about what may have been concerning her, rather than withholding the love that all children need and deserve.

I am not saying that you need to constantly coddle your child. It's impossible - with all the demands that are put on a parent it would be inherently difficult to do that. What I am saying is that giving your child the gift of communication is very intimate. If you are upset you can say something along the lines of "Sweetheart, sometimes mommy has a bad day and I know that I forgot to give you your hug/kiss last night. It's not because I don't love you - it's just because I forget. Don't ever think that you are not the most important little man in my life because you are, no matter where I am or what I am feeling." It's simple conversations like these that make the biggest impact to your children. They are the ones who love you and need you the most and regardless of what may be troubling you, they do make things easier for you!

It's a Grill! (No - it's a Girl!).....The Politics of Bad Teaching

As a child, I never questioned authority. It was implored in me to never say that something was wrong or out of place,  even when it was.

When I started working a little more closely with people, I found that this could no longer be the case. Living where we I live now, I have noticed that many people around me will do anything to show that they are right - even if it means that that it causes irreparable harm or create a chaotic situation that only an intelligent, logical person would know how to unravel. So here is my vent...

For years and years, I have learned a certain methodology called Orton-Gillingham, that has been used by a certain population here in Atlanta. When I  work with students, I have developed a key sense of awareness of certain problems that have resulted from students not receiving the type of instruction and resources that they need in order to make gains in their reading. Given the fact that I have worked with hundreds of individuals in a private 1:1 setting, I have accumulated enough experience and know how to understand what the pitfalls are before even working with the student. It's the result of understanding what the process is - and working backwards that has helped me (and others like me) help students.

So when a parent decided to question me about a certain topic that she thought I was teaching incorrectly, I was baffled. I normally respond to criticism and challenges pretty well but when I showed her the examples/explanations/ and research behind what she thought was "incorrect", it became a battle of "Phonics Tug of War" between myself and an entire school that was teaching their group of 1,000 students incorrectly. This was not the only school that has done this in the great city that I live in - this is one of many schools that teaches their children to improperly identify a group of phonemes in this way.

The next day I decided to do my research. Fortunately, one of the individuals on my team just received training from a Learning Specialist who has used this approach for over 30 years and was able to give me feedback on the issue. Another great resource was the Director of Training for the Orton Gillingham Institute who personally called me and was able to answer my very troubling question. "Did I teach this concept incorrectly? If not, why is an entire school not abiding by the principles by which this methodology was founded on?"

After 1 1/2 hours on the phone and case studies and examples, I was indeed correct. There are situations where schools may be and will be wrong and there is absolutely nothing implausable with questioning why certain practices, (however "difficult" it may be on the ego of the school to admit) need to be changed. It's not a question of "well it's the school, they have to be right.." Certain institutions have a profound impact on silencing the benevolent efforts of one individual. In my case, I stand before you vindicated!

Why Most Children Don't Listen to Their Parents (When They Turn Into "Teacher")

This has happened since the dawn of mankind. When a parent takes on a role that is anything other than "parent", terrible things can (and probably do) happen.

I have witnessed this with my own eyes each and every year many parents who, even with the best intentions, ruin the relationship with their children for that period of time or (seemingly even more atrocious) for the rest of their lives.

The first time that I heard a story like this was when I had a long-winded conversation with my husband about how he was having a hard time with Reading in school and his mother (a former School Principal) had taken it upon herself to "tutor" him after hours. I know that if my mother-in-law is as valiant and persistent as she is a mother, I'm sure that "tutoring" him probably felt more like "torturing" him. After weeks of watching his grades plummet from "A's" to "B'c" to "C's", she spent countless afternoons going over what she thought was the best way to help him with Reading. She did what she thought was the best way for him to learn (the old fashioned "drill and kill" method, nothing more, nothing less). Every week day the hours spent at the dining room table felt like a make shift prison for my husband as he was bound to the one and only way to learn and resorted to bathroom "lock-ins" that resulted in him crying and her left wondering, "What did I do wrong?"

Yes, this is a more extreme situation that, despite the fact that it is true (and I have verified the accuracy of these events with her and she confessed to everything) it still happens each and every day. Parents walk a very thin line between caregiver, coach, counselor, and teacher. However, the role of teacher is so difficult that sometimes it becomes a necessary vice for parents to step into that role in order to feel that they are somewhat "worthy" of being proactive in their child's education.

There are several reasons why most parents cannot and should not help their children with learning certain "difficult" subjects. Here are just a few:

1. Education professionals have been training for years to help your child.

Teacher preparation programs range anywhere from 1 year of direct teaching experience to 3 years of direct teaching experience in order for your child to learn in the best manner possible. With classes such as child psychology and child development, many teachers come equipped with a wide range of information to help your child.

2. It's hard being objective when your "heart and soul" is making a mistake

My dad drove since he was 12 years old - that doesn't mean that he should have taught me how to drive. My grandfather had a PhD in Economics and taught at the University level; that doesn't mean that he was qualified to help my father learn how to read, write, or appreciate arithmetic.

There's a certain level of inflexibility that family members have as it pertains to our infallible loved ones. When your child does something wrong - it's as if you are in disbelief that they could do that. It's not that you are a bad parent - it is just a function of your biological instinct to be protective and is hard-wired in your brain. Fortunately, educational professionals enjoy a certain degree of objectivity in working with your child which makes it much easier to assist in their development

3.  Your child simply wants to please you

Unless it is an extreme situation, children want to please their parents. (unless they are teenagers and they are testing boundaries in which - we all know that these are the "lost years" in everyone's life). They come home looking for you so that they can tell you they earned an "A" on the math test or they won first place in the Jump Rope contest. If a parent chooses to "school" a child, you are playing with a double edged sword and your child may become confused or worse yet - tend to resent you for manipulating their emotions. (Great job on the test today - but you know that it could have been better if "we" studied for another hour.)

4. Remediation is tricky...

The very first class that I had taken in Graduate School was called (believe it or not) "The Art and Science of Teaching". A true educator reveals more to the process of working with students than a scripted lesson plan or a set of statistics on performance based assessments. An educational professional assesses, plans, monitors, and constantly reflects on what is happening with each and every student. Many parents have a difficult time understanding this process (even parents who are teachers themselves) and sometimes resort to what they believe to be easy and is the "best practice" for remediation. The problem is - what works for you, unfortunately, may not work for them.

If you would like more information on how an educational professional can help your child, feel free to contact me at christine@learningridge.com or you can call Christine at 404-964-8533.

We are dedicated...but my clients are devoted..

I've had the opportunity to work with some students from when they are young to when they grow older. I have seen students transition from the time to when they enter elementary school, to entering puberty,  to when they are about to enter college. It is a quite life changing event to know a student well enough to guide them in some of the most important decisions in their life.

As an individual who is very "hands on", it has been difficult for some of my clients to transition to another educational professional. I've become quite attached to my little clients as their success in school is based on many different factors and one of which at times could be the very last session that I had with the student. Nevertheless, it is through our hard work, preparation time and dedication that has allowed us to be so successful with our clients.

When I had discussed the idea of having another educational professional work with my client he immediately said, "You know how it is. I know that you understand how my mind works and you make these ideas click in my head." It makes me feel very proud that I am able to unravel the chaos that does not make a great deal of sense to my students and it is because of that makes them the successful students that they have become.

We have been very fortunate to have the types of clients that believe in our process and have shown their loyalty over the years. Thank you so much for your vote of confidence and your devotion.

When Your Child Falls....What A Mom and Dad Did..

Today was a rather unusual - and unfortunate day for one of my little students. We were off to a great start: talking about Star Wars and Darth Vader...anything to get the conversation going. He completed all of his assignments and did more math than a cashier does at Walmart. Overall it was a good day until he fell..

Many children fidget (goodness, many adults fidget) to the point to where they need the distractions to keep their anxiety at bay. I recall one student who fidgeted so badly in my classroom that she would leave black and blue marks on my arms and legs. My little 5 1/2 year old student today was fidgeting on a bench and for some reason or another, needed to stand up. He moved his feet back and forth over and over again until something terrible happened - his foot slipped and his beautiful and angelic head face planted on the table. It was not a pretty sight for me to see and as I heard the screeching sound of his voice yelp for help - I knew it was time for his parents to come in and play "Private Mommy and Daddy Investigator". The only thing that really surprised me was their reaction to the entire event.

When a child falls down - what I normally hear from a mom and dad is, "What were you doing" or "You should be more careful" or "Why did you do that". These parents approached this situation with so much caution and care that I felt much better about the world when I saw how they consoled their son. Rather than chiding the little 5 1/2 year old about the accident, the father immediately came down to his level and opened his arms out to him in an effort to have his son release his pain. His son wailed for about two minutes and as his cry for help subsided, I noticed the father rest his head on his son's head as a way to tell him non-verbally, "It's okay, Dad is here. There's nothing to worry about." After that, I noticed his mother walk (not run) over to the refrigerator to grab something cold and soothing for him to drink so that his recovery would be expedited.

In that five minute interaction I found that:
Neither mom nor dad raised their voice.
Neither mom nor dad ridiculed their child.
Neither mom nor dad overreacted when they knew that the child had done something wrong.

Many children learn from other children - but it is through the actions and loving embrace that comes from a caregiver that allows them to grow emotionally. Today helped me realize that all parents are not the same however, I do wish that more parents could take some notes on what these two opened my eyes to.

Thanks Mr. and Mrs. Super Parent, I always knew your child was incredible, now I know why!

JATP... Keep Your Friends Close.. and Your Preschool Director on Speed Dial

If you are confused by this title, then you should continue reading. (That is unless, you do not have kids.)

Dear Parent:

I know that you are very concerned about this test and the process that it entails. Although the title may be deceiving, there is one thing that you should know... More often than not - it is the little things that matter here in Atlanta. Not only should you be preparing for this process, but you should also be making friends with those who you will need to assist you in the process.

It is important that you know what you do not know. There are aspects of the process that is daunting for you - there are aspects of this process that is even more challenging for the student. Sometimes when you forget or place little value on the details of Admissions Preparation - it may backfire and could result in undesirable consequences later on. My best advice to you is to seek the help of a professional who has helped navigate through this (time and time again). Not only will it assist you and your child, it will definitely help you feel better with each and every step that you take towards the final letter.

I want you to know that I am here to help you - in any and as many ways as I can. Thank you so much and I look forward to helping you soon!

~ Christine

504 versus IEP?

If you have questions about the difference between a 504 and an IEP, here is what an article found on www.about.com says:

504 Versus IEP

504 Plans Are Written to:

- Remove Barriers that prohibit student from achieving based on current conditions
- Levels playing field
- Follows guidelines set by Americans with Disabilities Act
- Some students who do not meet classifications for an Individualized Education Plan will be able to have services under a 504

IEP Plans Are Written to:
- Serve as a legal document that describes the services that your child will be receiving as part of the exceptionality that has been identified
- Tailored to meet the needs of your child
- Describes placement, services, and goals that are appropriate for your child.

For more information about 504 Plans and IEP's, you can contact christine@learningridge.com or call 404-964-8533

The Letters are In - and It Looks Really Good!

Savoring in the moment - my clients who actually completed the Admissions Preparation program had the best success to date!

When I say the Admissions Preparation Program - I mean the entire program from Start to Finish - not the "fly by night" work with my child the weekend before  the test. To be honest for you, I cannot prepare anything at that point - I can only pray that the child does not have a nervous breakdown when they go down that hallway and will have a complete stranger ask them questions that they believe are "tricky" or "silly". I had one mom tell me that after her daughter worked with me, she thought that everything else was "easy" from the assessment - to the observation - to the interviews.

Why do I believe in helping parents come up with a program that works with timelines - objectives and goals? The answer is: because I know what success looks like. The reason being is that I had observed families fail in this process before they were successful the next time around. It happens to the best of parents. They listen to people who have been in the industry for a long time but at the end of the day - that person says one thing: "Your child has a good chance getting into XYZ school.". They cannot offer one iota of advice to support that. For me, it's highway robbery. For them - it keeps their business in the black - and some Atlanta families in the dark.

The next time you need help with Admissions in the Atlanta area - know that I am here to help you with a realistic plan and with a realistic solution. However, do not wait until it is too late. There are only so many months in the year and starting early will always be in your favor! 

The Best Parents Are Those Who Respond - Not React To Situations

As a member in the Atlanta community - I have noticed a group of parents that always climb to the top - with their children, as a way to handle the trials and tribulations of family life. These parents are the ones that normally have the same set of problems as their neighbors or coworkers or subordinates - and despite the challenges of raising a family, can manage problems as it was a daily commuter flight from Atlanta to New York.

These parents I would like to call my "Responders". When presented with information that may be troubling - such as "Your child is not keeping up in reading", "Your child was caught mouthing off to the After School Program Director", "Your child misbehaved during recess" - these parents reflect upon the situation and quickly, without losing integrity, (or "face" as it would be called in Asian culture)  apologize for the act of transgression and immediately find a way to remedy the situation.

I am always proud of the way that these "Responsive Parents" are able to get what they want in the various "Academic and Social" lines that their child has to stand in. One example was of a parent that tried, for about three weeks, to prepare her young child to enter into the premier private schools in Atlanta. If anyone knows the educational climate of the private schools here in Atlanta - it is not something for the feint of heart. It takes months - sometimes even years to set all the pieces in place for successful admission. In this particular case, both her and her daughter took the crash course.  They were  "seen" by a leading so-called "Educational Consultant" who after ten minutes said, "Sure your child will get in." Unfortunately, she did not get in that year.

This "Responsive" Mother did what most mothers did. She went through the "Five Stages of Grief":
1. Denial - It must have been a mistake, my daughter is extremely bright
2. Anger - How could they not admit my child! There is something wrong with the school
3. Bargaining - If I give the school money - they are sure to accept my child next year
4. Depression - Let's give up on this idea. We will just move closer to where my in-laws live
5. Acceptance - It's okay. We will have to come up with a different plan for next year.**

** This is where I came in. We looked at everything that the family did to prepare for the process - and came up with a different game plan. This included conversations/language/activities that would increase the likelihood of success - no matter what the situation was. The mother spoke to the different directors at the school and did nothing but listen to what their feedback was - and not what they needed to do to change admissions policies. It was no longer a case of "Oh woe is me - my child was rejected" but rather, "What are the necessary steps to ensure that this never happens again?" It is great to say that this young child was accepted to the top four tiered schools in Atlanta - and as a family - has reached monumental success in the community because of they way that they "respond" to situations - and not react.

This Friday, April the 5th - Is When Letters Are Sent Home To Private School Applicants!

How did you do? I am so excited to see what the turnout was for this year!

Success Does Not Happen Overnight..

I recently just spoke to a mother that was asking me to help her child with one of the high stakes standardized tests in Georgia. The parent (as many of them have done in the last few days) called me first thing in the morning and wanted to inquire about the manner in which we do things. After apprising her of the steps involved, she quickly thanked me for her time and brushed off the notion that her last minute planning would result in a poor score for her child.

What surprises me is that she is not the only parent that has waited until it is almost too late to work on  intervention or remediation plans. Instead of finding out can be done to prevent their child from learning these concepts in a normal fashion, some parents wait until the very last minute (sometimes two or three days before a test, or when an entire school year needs to be repeated) to seek any type of assistance. For me, it is devastating to think that something could have been done - for the parent, it seems like it was inevitable.  

As a professional,  I believe that learning challenges can be prevented before they happen. Whether it is early intervention or intermittent support throughout the year, it is important now - more than ever, that you invest in your child's education because it ultimately results in their bright and prosperous future.

I think about it this way - if you spend just a little time now helping your child learn what they need to know, they can acquire and have specialized skills that will help them move forward later on in life. Just something to think about!

How Labels Could Help (Or Hurt) Your Child...

When parents call me, it is at varying stages in the educational timeline. Sometimes they call me when they think something is wrong, sometimes they call me when they have confirmed that something has gone wrong, sometimes - they call me,  when it is almost too late.

I've realized that through the years parents are becoming increasingly more obsessed with the idea of having a label attached to their child. As an adult, there were many labels that were associated with my social standing and motivation profile. Teachers always called me, "Gifted, High Achiever, Motivated, Type-A, Workaholic, Task Oriented..." while in class or after turning in big projects. When I look back to those early years, I would have given anything to be characterized as an individual who was, "Creative, Intuitive, Inspirational..."however, like with many things, I assume that is what adulthood is for (making up for time lost in your childhood..)

Nowadays, when parents sense that something is wrong, they believe that they need to attach a label to a child. For example, students that constantly need to move around are labeled as "ADHD" or a student who cannot maintain eye contact for longer than 1.1 seconds has "Autism" or "Aspergers Syndrome". If this were indeed the case, each student in the classroom would have some form of Neurological Disorder either in Physical Education class or while taking the SAT.

I believe that labels, at times, are not only dangerous in describing your child, but can also be stigmatizing. I was involved in a situation at school where a school reviewed at a report that was provided by one of my clients who has a 2nd grader in need of services. The report, which  was conducted by a developmental pediatrician in the area,  labeled the child as having Autism. The school wanted to have the child receive services under the umbrella of Autism and would not relent at the notion that the student was Autistic.  It took several hours and pages of  discussion before the school team finally agreed to not have that label listed in the students profile.

It disheartens me to see that some individuals carelessly (and callously) describe children with these conditions. It is a little unsettling that we are more focused on the label - than the actual challenges that need to be overcome, which are presented with the behaviors. Although undiagnosed, there are many individuals I know of who have some form of ADHD (myself included).  It is through understanding who you are and what you may need help in doing that makes you the individual that you are. Oftentimes I look at the challenges that a child has - and all I see is a child, that has the same desire to be like every other child they come across. To have the feeling that they have made their parents proud and at the end of the day, feel really great about something that they have accomplished. They don't rest their head and night thinking, "I have XYZ". They say to themselves, "I love you mom and dad - and thank you for accepting me for who I am."

What I help parents with - is getting their kids to be at state of gratitude, sooner, rather than later.

"Mom of the Year"

I don't know if this is a fair contest-  as I truly believe that the reason why some women become mothers is because they instinctually know how to raise a child. As a professional who works with hundreds of families each year - it is a title that is given very carefully.

After years of research and observation, here are a few traits of women that I would consider "Mom of the Year":

1. UNSELFISH

In the case of my own mother and other mothers that I have worked with, "Mom of the Year" candidates are typically - unselfish. I have known many that personally take on part-time jobs or cut a splurge in their own budget to make room for something that their child really needs. Whenever I pass by a local music shop or school, I will see a "MOTY" take a quick nap because they want to make sure that they are there for their child when they are done with their lesson or activity. They are respectful of their child's time, and the time of whoever it is that is their caretaker at that particular moment.

2. WORK-LIFE BALANCE

There are some women who want to work - there are some women who need to work. A "Mom of the Year" is one that knows that at the beginning, the middle,  and the end of the day - Family Comes First.

In the wise words of my late father, "Family first - that means...you are second." It may be hard to think that saying "no" to an additional project, hour of work, or professional obligation will have a dramatic impact on your mother-child relationship, but if you look at children who are at the park with their parents (sans cell phone), you will see something totally transformational in their child's eyes.

Most young children do not know what you do - they know who you are to them and it is summed up in three letters: "MOM" (or in the case of an emergency... "MOMMY").

3. GREAT MANAGER

When life hands you a speed bump, you do not quickly drive over it in hopes that it does not ruin your transmission. "MOTY" will know how to handle the problem by using a simple three step process:

1. Evaluate the Problem
2. Find a Solution
3. Implement a Solution

When a "MOTY" sees that there is an issue that needs to be addressed in their child's life. they do not vacillate for weeks on what the solution could be. They use highly effective problem solving skills - and work towards resolution before the end of the day.

4. HEAD COACH (and ASSISTANT HEAD COACH)

Here is what may be the hardest task of any parent: being objective in a totally subjective role. As a parent, you are not there to dictate to your child in what they need to do, be, accomplish, understand, learn, uphold - before they reach 18 years old or when they leave the house (for good) whichever comes first. Your role is to raise them and care for them. Sometimes it means giving them praise when they need it - and redirecting behavior when they don't (need praise that is).

As an observer of different parenting styles - I have seen the MOTY navigate through these two roles seamlessly. Sometimes they are more of the parent "strategist" by  having the child look at the big picture, and sometimes they are "tactical" by instructing the child on how to execute a certain task.

Here is an example: When I was younger, my mother (and father) would encourage us to not pay too much attention to what people now and days call "bullies". It was a commonality that people would be bullied in life and they instilled into us that as long as you know who you are and what you are, nothing can hurt you (that was the strategist in my "MOTY" and "FOTY"). When an actual bully was bothering someone in my family - they would encourage a more tactical approach by showing us the power of kindness and then later on, assertiveness.

We never had issues with bullies because this was one of the major strengths in my "MOTY".

5. WARMTH

As much as I praise my mother for her valiant parenting styles, I also must give credit to my mother-in-law (a European clinical psychologist) who has given me an insight on the power of warmth for a "MOTY".

She gave me the example of when a child is ready to come home from school and what they remember when they come home. She said that when her two boys arrived home, they were greeted with the same three things every weekday:

1. A kiss/hug
2. Something good to eat
3. A "no-pressure" activity/conversation

She asked me what I  thought about that statement and as I was thinking about the times that I had come home from school, the warmth that I received from my family - the great food that my mom always made, and the peace/quiet that I was given as part of my "decompression hour".
I really did appreciate the times where I would see my mother and/or father waiting for me at the kitchen table with a huge smile on their face. I know that children bring a great deal of happiness to their parents, but the strength and dedication that a parent brings to a child - really does last a lifetime.

The views and opinions of this blog article are my own. Thank you so much to my wonderful mother, mother-in-law, family members, and "MOTY" clients that I dedicate this article to. It is your hard work and commitment to raising fine young children that will make this world a better place, for generations to come!

Atlanta Private School Admissions...2013-2014 is Almost Over!

As I review the text messages sent from the phones of Atlanta parents in the last few weeks, the last stages of Private School Preparation are almost over. I can say that without a doubt - there were many clients that did find the time and set the proper expectations of this process not only for their children, but from themselves.

I am very happy to say that I have helped many parents prepare for this process this year. It has been quite a long road from beginning to end - but those that stuck with it and were able to commit to each and every iota of advice that I had given definitely saw the pay off in the last few weeks.

Last minute changes to schedules - timelines, and application deadlines were really hard for many of these parents and they were able to adapt - and stay true to what Learning Ridge is known for. We believe in "guiding students onto the path to success.." and it was often told to our parents that this path would not be an easy one. It takes a great amount of effort to be a good parent, and it is even harder to stay focused when things do not go your way in a given situation.

Thank you to all of these great parents. I cannot say how wonderful it was to have had the pleasure of not only getting to know your children, but watching them grow both intellectually and emotionally in the last few weeks.

Upwards and onwards to 2014-2015!

3 Words/Phrases You Should Never Say To Your Children

Listening to conversations that parents have with their children, there are three words/phrases that make most professionals cringe when they are uttered from the lips of "good intention" mothers and fathers. Please keep in mind that your children remember what you say.... for years to come.

1. STUPID

Yes, I have heard parents use this term and to no avail - they do not know what an impact it has on their child. After meeting a child, it becomes obvious that this term is used because their posture and eye contact reveal that their self-esteem and confidence has been tarnished for some time.

The bottom line - do not use this word to describe your child.

2. CAN'T

Unless your child is 75 years of age, there is pretty much a limitless list of things that they "CAN" do. Their life has just begun and unless there have been 100's of hours of scientific research that has been done on your little one, it is almost impossible to use the word "can't" in front of an action word.

Believe that your child "can" read or "can" do math. Unless there is a semi-permanent or permanent physical/neurological condition that is irreversible at this given moment, your child "can" do whatever they set their minds to (given the proper environment and encouragement).

3. "His/her sister/brother/cousin/friend is smarter/cuter/funnier/better..."

Comparisons are for products - not people. Many people bear the brunt of being compared to other siblings, family members, friends, or even complete strangers - for their entire life. Keep in mind - not matter what your school of thought that no two children are alike - and should never be compared  despite their perceived likeness. The world would be so dull if the same families did nothing but imitate each other as if we were a well-bred species in the animal world.

I am grateful that I came from a very educationally competitive environment but I am also even more relieved that I did not have to be in the same profession as my siblings or cousins. We all have our strengths and challenges, and it is that unique makeup that becomes a contribution to the world that we live in.

What Are Habits of the Mind?

As a professional Educational Consultant, it is very important for me to review the academic rigor that if found in the curricula and schools that I come across. In my search to measure these different offerings, I have stumbled across one of the most important skill sets that this new generation will need to master in order to be successful.

In no particular order they are:

Critical Thinking

Creative Thinking

Collaboration

Communication

Yes, we did not include achievement or ability in this list. These are all individualized skills that each person must master on their own:) 

Multicultural Book Recommendation

Cradle Me!

by Debby Slier

Published by Star Bright Books, 2012
ISBN: 978-1-59572-274-4

Most babies love looking at babies! 

Take some time to look through the photographs of ten beautiful babies from ten different American Indian tribes, each one engaged in a typical cradle-board related activity (peeking, touching, crying, yawning, etc.). 

Your child will learn about the baby’s tribal affiliations as well as understanding how Native American mothers carry their children!

When You Ask A Question...

I often wonder the planning that is involved in formulating a question. As a Child Development Specialist, I oftentimes listen in on conversations that parents are having with their children and their need to respond to the question as quickly as possible.

Before you ask your child a question, make sure that you set your children up for success. Here are a few tips to help with this task:

1. Discover what they know or can remember. (Do you remember what happened to the Tin Man in the Wizard of Oz?)

2. Find out what piqued their interest. (What was your favorite part of the movie? Why was it your favorite part?)

3. Develop ideologies and beliefs. (Why is it important to be courteous to those that are older than us? Why should you always be share your belongings at school?)

4. Test achievement. (What are some things that you would do to make your school lunch more enjoyable?)

5. Allow them to think critically. (How can the community come together to solve the problem of traffic in this city?)

With these helpful tips, you will build a more confident and aware young child!

Multicultural Book Recommendation!

Are you looking for a great book to help your child understand more about other cultures? Here is a book for you.

Older Brother, Younger Brother is a traditional Korean folktale explores the universal theme that if good is returned for ill treatment, good will triumph over evil.

This story was retold by Nina Jaffe, illustrated by Wenhai Ma (Viking, 1995).

One Size Never Fits All..

I enjoy working with all of my clients but sometimes, they leave to go on much needed vacations over the holidays to help their brain relax from all the learning and routine that they have been exposed to in the last few months.

The reason why I am writing this is because I want to stress that Learning Does Not Have To Take Place In A Building... It can take place anywhere - in the arms of a loving parent or grandparent, in the care of an astute professional, or through an environment rich with opportunities for development such as a community center or a library.

One of my little clients (although she is starting to grow at an Olympic rate and I am afraid that she will become taller than me by next year) left to travel overseas for almost six weeks. One month before her trip, her mother asked if I could prepare lessons for her that they can work on over the month. I obliged and completed a packet full of resources and activities that could augment in me not being there. When I handed the folder off, it was "Christine In A Box" - a basic substitution for me on vacation..

Weeks went by and as each major holiday passed, I would sit and aimlessly wonder how she was doing. I normally do not share this information with my clients (as it shows them how sentimental I become) but I would hope that her mother and her would share some quality time together and read some of the information that I had put together for her. I know how hard her mother works - (she reminds me of my own brother,  who recently had to quit his job to tend to my beautiful niece who has a physical disability) and was quite excited to see how she would execute the "vacation learning challenge" with me.

After all the major holidays passed, the mother finally contacted me when things had settled down from the trip. I was so excited to learn about how my little learner took to the books that I had prepared for her. I noticed that she had learned so much in the last few weeks that seemed like an eternity to me. She read all of the 72 books (yes - 72. You should have seen the look on my face when I gave those books to her mother. I was terrified that she would throw them all away in the garbage.) that I had passively assigned to her. It was as if she had been reading for the last few years - and not just a few months.

More importantly, when I finally met my little learner, I noticed a sense of closeness that she felt towards me that was not present before. Her "physical space" was a bit narrower and the only regret that I felt was that I did not seize the moment and applaud her for feeling comfortable. I was in complete awe with her development and was so proud to be a part of it all.

Private School Observations...

As the calendar year closes for 2012-2013 Admissions, I would like to know... "Are you ready for your observations?"

Waiting For The Breakthrough!

Every year as I take on new cases, I explain what happens or - what will happen to the minds of the young children that I work with. Parents take their time to understand this process and as a result, they look at their calendars and wait for what I call "The Breakthrough".

This breakthrough can be one of many things. For students with dyslexia - it could be the moment that they pick up a book and read to themselves when (they think) nobody is looking. For students with Autism - it could be when they initiate conversations with me without any type of prompting. For students with ADHD, it is when they are able to complete a task - all by themselves. For young students waiting to get into the private school of their choice, it is when they are able to develop such complex reasoning skills that they amaze their parents with their gift of conversation.

I believe that the product of my hard work and commitment to our clients is based on "Breakthroughs" that happen in the young minds of our children each and every day. There is nothing more enjoyable than to share these precious moments with their parents.

Recess - Revisited?

A Hufington Post article recently has stated that schools must examine their need for recess in the school day to promote coping skills, playing, and exercise.

According to the article, reasons why recess is important have been outlined, such as:

• When kids get breaks, they are more able to learn.
• Through play at recess, kids learn communication skills such as negotiation, cooperation, sharing and problem-solving.
• Play also gives kids opportunities to practice coping skills, such as perseverance and self-control.
• Kids need exercise. The AAP recommends an hour a day, and recess helps with that.
• Kids need to play, "for the sheer joy of it." Mental health is important too.

Exceeding Expectations For Reading!

As a professional, it brings a smile to my face each and every time I receive an email from a client. Sometimes they are passive emails that tell me that we need to change our schedule, sometimes it's a request to put a list of materials together for parents to pick up. The best emails are the ones where parents tell me of the progress that their child has made in the course of a few weeks, or months.

One of the last emails that I opened was from a mom that had just returned from an overseas vacation with her daughter and husband. I thought that the email would read like most of my other emails that would just reinforce the fact that we will begin our sessions in a few days. This email was different because it gave me an idea of what happens... when I am not around.

The "Mom" told me that her daughter had successfully read through the 72 books that I had given to her to read through the course of the month. I did not think that her daughter would do this because 1. she was on vacation 2. it was a lot of books. Regardless, this little girl did the impossible - she read the books and made both her mom and I so proud. I had been waiting all day to respond to the email - and am even more excited to see how much she has grown (both intellectually and emotionally) since our last session.